Wednesday, September 8, 2010

How to Solve Marital Issues

After you have gone through the honeymoon stage of marriage; most problems would come in. Since you are two different individuals, you have different styles on dealing with marital issues that you have. When you decided to get married, you have committed to become as one. So when a marital issue arise, you should view it in the same perspective. Here are few tips on how to solve marital issues as a couple:
  • There should be a positive reason on why you want to solve the problem. It must be specific, for example you have problems with your finances; give a positive reason on why you want this specific problem to be solved. Tell your partner that you want to save up money for emergency situations that is why you need to check on how you both handle your finances.
  • Avoid pointing fingers, bickering with each others faults would never result into something positive. Gently direct issues on why a certain problem would arise but never blame the other person for the problem. Remember it takes two to tango.
  • Present possible solutions that are agreeable to both of you. Never present a solution that could only be beneficial to one person. It would not solve the problem but can further create trouble as well.
  • Deal with the current issue, steer clear from going back to other problems that you have. If one person would tend to veer away from what is being resolved, gently remind the other person that it is not the current issue that you are trying to resolve.
  • Once you have agreed upon a possible solution, stick to it. Then take the marital problem as case closed, don't bring it up again if in case another marital issue will arise.
  • Learn to listen and compromise. From what I have read before it says that "it is okay to bend a little rather than to break"
No marriage is perfect, everyday you discover new things about your partner. These discoveries may not always be pleasing but learn how to accept it and deal with it. Open the lines of communication between you and your partner. It is always best that you speak what is inside your heart and your mind but remember that your partner has his or her own feelings to. Be considerate. Remember the love that you felt for your partner before the conflict arise. Make sure that you did everything that you can to save the marriage before deciding to go further like divorce.


  1. Thank You for that post you are so right you gotta try everything before throwing in the towel. I recently got married and things were nothing like I had imagined they would be we did everything and I just couldn't take it any more. But good news we are back on track and thigs are looking so much better.


  2. @danielle: thanks for the comment. It's tough to maintain a good married life. But nothing is impossible if you and your partner are willing to work things out. Good luck on your marriage.


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