How to Make a Happy Marriage

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 Hubby and I had our 6th wedding anniversary. Although it turned out as planned, it is okay with me because I know that there are more anniversaries to come. If you are looking forward to celebrating 50th wedding anniversary with your spouse, then you must find ways to keep the marriage happy even in times of adversities. Being married to your spouse does not mean that there would no longer be arguments or disagreements. There are times that you would disagree on certain issues that involves your family. But then again, agreeing to disagree is somehow healthy because you can come up with very good solutions to family concerns. Married life can be happier for you and your partner. Here are simple ways to make your husband or your wife happy:

1. If your partner is at work or is not with you, send SMS during the day. Say how much you are looking forward to seeing your partner again.
2. Cook dinner for your partner, even husbands can cook dinner for their wives especially during the weekends.
3. Plant a kiss on his or her cheeks for no reason at all. Remember to always kiss your partner in the morning and before going to bed (even if you just had a fight).
4. Ask about each other's activities during the day, take time to listen to rants if there are any.
5. A good back rub or massage will soothe tired muscles, and touching your partner would make him or her feel special.

These things are very basic and there is no need to spend money in doing these things (except for cooking dinner of course ). Happy marriage would mean raising happy kids too!

On Saving Marriage Retreats

We are not the ideal couple too, but I can proudly say that we have proven a lot of things to not-so-nice people.  There is no need for us to go on saving marriage retreats or counseling. Although I do not see anything wrong with that. In keeping the love and harmony in our married life, we try to compromise on a lot of things.
As much as we want to avoid arguments, there are moments that we cannot do so. But we have learned to manage our emotions and deal with the problem. It's hard to stay calm when there are issues to settle, but that should be the way to handle it.

Here are some useful tips on how to solve marital issues: There should be a positive reason on why you want to solve the problem. It must be specific, for example you have problems with your finances; give a positive reason on why you want this specific problem to be solved.

Tell your partner that you want to save up money for emergency situations that is why you need to check on how you both handle your finances. Avoid pointing fingers, bickering with each others faults would never result into something positive. Gently direct issues on why a certain problem would arise but never blame the other person for the problem.

Remember it takes two to tango. Present possible solutions that are agreeable to both of you. Never present a solution that could only be beneficial to one person. It would not solve the problem but can further create trouble as well. Deal with the current issue, steer clear from going back to other problems that you have.

If one person would tend to veer away from what is being resolved, gently remind the other person that it is not the current issue that you are trying to resolve. Once you have agreed upon a possible solution, stick to it. Then take the marital problem as case closed, don't bring it up again if in case another marital issue will arise. Learn to listen and compromise. From what I have read before it says that "it is okay to bend a little rather than to break".

Everyday we discover new things about our partner. Some of these discoveries may not be pleasant, we may learn a lot of flaws about their character. Learn how to accept and deal with the little flaws in our spouses character (unless of course, you get abused physically or emotionally-that is a different story). Remember the love that you have for your partner whenever conflict arise.

Resolve issues and do everything to save the marriage. If saving marriage retreats can help you rekindle the old flame, then do so. Try to do the best that you can if you think and feel that your marriage is worth saving.

How to Solve Marital Issues

After you have gone through the honeymoon stage of marriage; most problems would come in. Since you are two different individuals, you have different styles on dealing with marital issues that you have. When you decided to get married, you have committed to become as one. So when a marital issue arise, you should view it in the same perspective. Here are few tips on how to solve marital issues as a couple:

• There should be a positive reason on why you want to solve the problem. It must be specific, for example you have problems with your finances; give a positive reason on why you want this specific problem to be solved. Tell your partner that you want to save up money for emergency situations that is why you need to check on how you both handle your finances.
• Avoid pointing fingers, bickering with each others faults would never result into something positive. Gently direct issues on why a certain problem would arise but never blame the other person for the problem. Remember it takes two to tango.
• Present possible solutions that are agreeable to both of you. Never present a solution that could only be beneficial to one person. It would not solve the problem but can further create trouble as well.
• Deal with the current issue, steer clear from going back to other problems that you have. If one person would tend to veer away from what is being resolved, gently remind the other person that it is not the current issue that you are trying to resolve.
• Once you have agreed upon a possible solution, stick to it. Then take the marital problem as case closed, don't bring it up again if in case another marital issue will arise.
• Learn to listen and compromise. From what I have read before it says that "it is okay to bend a little rather than to break"

No marriage is perfect, everyday you discover new things about your partner. These discoveries may not always be pleasing but learn how to accept it and deal with it. Open the lines of communication between you and your partner. It is always best that you speak what is inside your heart and your mind but remember that your partner has his or her own feelings to. Be considerate. Remember the love that you felt for your partner before the conflict arise. Make sure that you did everything that you can to save the marriage before deciding to go further like divorce.